My Parenting Story: Victoria, Mama to Kitty, age 1
Over the next few months, The Parenting Chapter will be running a campaign titled #myparentingstory which will feature poignant parenting stories as told by Mums and Dads. The stories will focus on the highs and lows of parenting and be memorable for a variety of reasons. Our aim is to encourage a more honest and community-led approach to parenting, and hope this campaign will help parents who maybe going through, or have gone through a similar situation.
My Parenting Story: Victoria, Deputy Head Teacher now Stay-at-Home Mum
My parenting journey was not straightforward from the off; I didn't even realise I was pregnant until 10 weeks. I was happily attending NCT classes with my husband, then when we were about halfway through and I was at 34 weeks + 3, I went into unexpected labour on the only evening that whole year that it snowed! It did not feel real at all, even when in pain and the team rushed in to perform the episiotomy and use forceps. I still find it quite upsetting to think back on; I know no one can really prepare you for what birth is like, but I found my experience quite traumatic, especially as I was convinced it was a false alarm.
I am not sure anyone ever really feels ready to give birth, especially with your first baby, but I felt a bit cheated, as I only knew I was pregnant for 24 weeks in total! On the plus side, I never got to the very uncomfortable stage. Only when my baby was in my arms did I believe I was actually a mother. I was also convinced she was going to be a boy and the joy I felt hearing I had a daughter was unbelievable.
We were very fortunate that Kitty did not need special care; she was jaundiced but other than that, a healthy weight and a beautiful little soul. It has been a tough road from day one on a number of fronts, but I would not change it for the world. The love is just overwhelming. And looking at her now, you would never know she was premature!
If you would like to submit your parenting story, please do email us at firstname.lastname@example.org with a short summary of your story and a colour photograph that is ideally at least 1MB in size.