The Breastfeeding Code E-Book

This is an excerpt from my thoughts two years ago:

So you just pop baby onto your breast yeah? Cool. Hold on, it’s not working. God I feel frustrated, guilty, sad, helpless and ashamed and it’s only 3 hours since the birth. OOOO I think I’ve cracked it and I feel amazing and elated that breastfeeding is working! Yessss I love it! 1 day later....why is this so blinking hard. Maybe I should ask for help. God no! Imagine if someone heard what’s going on in my head. Maybe I should just give a bottle of formula milk (I had it myself)....hmmmm I’m not sure. I don’t feel comfortable. Breast is best after all and I don’t want to feel left out, or the mum who can’t breastfeed in the baby classes. I might just keep going. But hold on, why am I feeling such an array of emotions and sliding from negative to positive emotions on an hourly basis? Am I a bad mum or dad for feeling negative emotions towards breastfeeding and bottle feeding? I’m not sure I want to talk to anyone about it in case I’m judged. I give Flynn formula milk. He loves it. I hate this, but also love seeing him so full and content. What an emotional mind-f!! But I want to breastfeed and when it works I love it and it’s so beneficial. Can I combination feed? Is that ok? Jesus woman, it’s your child your choice. I’m so lost....

Thankfully, I met an incredible Lactation Consultant who saved me and saved breastfeeding. And I carried on for 9 months. But I wish someone had informed me about the emotional side to breastfeeding and bottle feeding. And spoke to me about the red flag or wonky moments when you're feeling the more 'negative' emotions. I will add, negative emotions aren't a bad thing. We can't live in a positive world 24/7 and the two sides can co-exist. Emotions are emotions and they tell us something. Validate them i.e. acknowledge them, is my top tip.

So, I've worked with our Infant Feeding professional - Geraldine Miskin and Julianne Boutaleb - our Consultant Perinatal Psychologist on an e-book - The Breastfeeding Code. It's picking up on the areas that I think are lacking right now when it comes to education of parents. Both contributors are pro breastfeeding, as am I, but both are pro keeping parents in the best place physically and mentally.

This e-book will encourage you to think about 'the why' behind your feeding choices (a really crucial stage to ensure you're more prepared mentally) and help decipher the emotions you may experience when things are going well and not so well during your feeding journey - for mums and dads.

Most of all, we want you to feel less alone and reassured that you're not a bad parent for feeling negative emotions alongside positive ones. 


Love,

Lauren, Mama-in-Chief  x

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Contributors

Lauren Marks-Clee

Mama-in-Chief, The Parenting Chapter

 Check out our Chapter One course which covers breastfeeding, combination feeding, bottle feeding (including how to bottle feed and mix a formula feed), tongue tie, reflux, colic, breastfeeding problems, mental health in mums and dads and lots and lots more!

Check out our Chapter One course which covers breastfeeding, combination feeding, bottle feeding (including how to bottle feed and mix a formula feed), tongue tie, reflux, colic, breastfeeding problems, mental health in mums and dads and lots and lots more!